My children are wild, my work is crazy, my life is overwhelming at times, but it's all mine, and I love every minute of it! I work as a Financial Aid Advisor, and am the mother to 3-year-old twin girls, Saniya and Saadia, and a 1-year-old boy, Silas. They keep my hands full, my heart over flowing, and everyone entertained! Just a phase?
My girls were perfect infants and wonderful toddlers. They never even went thru the terrible two’s. Just before turning 3, things changed. They completely tossed their “dream girl” status out the window!! I’ve heard that age 3 was harder than 2, but I didn’t really believe it… not MY girls, THEY are perfect. *sigh* The tower high pedestal I put them on has come crashing down!
They are sweet and well mannered; gentle and kind; friendly and outgoing… when other people are around. But as soon as the front door closes, they turn into wretched little demons!! (said with much love, of course!) They have tempers, and are sassy; they talk back, roll their eyes, yell, growl… (I feel my blood pressure rising just thinking about it!) Nothing we have tried has worked… nothing.
Most days they are great! I’d even go as far as to say that 95% of the time they are still my perfect angels, but that other 5% pushes me over the edge. They are equally “bad”, but what makes Saniya stand out as “The One”, is that she is fearless. She can not be intimidated. Nothing scares her and no consequence concerns her. Saadia at least knows how to play the game. She will show remorse, or pretend to care that she isn’t being the best she can be. I’m sure she is playing us, but I’ll take it!! Saniya is just flat out unaffected! It’s sooo frustrating.
We’ve been lucky that they aren’t the type to have tantrums. They don’t throw stuff or destroy things, so that’s good, but their mouths get them into so much trouble. They are sooo fresh!! Very very bold. I should also mention that they have taken to fighting each other. I’m talking, knock down, drag out, Jerry Springer style brawls. It gets ugly. Oy vey!
Someone please tell that this is a phase… a very short phase.
Anna was a terror three year old, too. The annoying part (aside from the other thousand annoying parts) is that the best defense is to totally keep your cool and, as Saniya does, be unaffected. Oh, you want to talk back? ok… have fun in time out, I’ve got better things to do. Look at me, I don’t care. It’s all the same to me if you’re right here or suffering indignity in the other room. Then whistle.
Yeah, right! When you figure out oblivious versus barely contained fury, can you pass that on? I think during the 3-year-old period I screamed almost as much as she did. It didn’t help, but I felt like at least we were equally disturbed.
Good luck!!
Comment by Megan — June 26, 2009 @ 8:43 amI’m there with you. Give me back the 2′s, cuz the 3′s suck.
Comment by Missy — June 30, 2009 @ 9:27 am